The Day FB Blew Up & The Sexist Asshat

Today started out totally normal until a shared blog post blew up Facebook.   Yesterday I read a heart wrenching blog post about a girl being systematically and regularly harassed whist riding on public transportation.    You may have already seen it but in case you haven’t, here it is:

http://unwinona.tumblr.com/post/30861660109/i-debated-whether-or-not-to-share-this-story

I was so utterly and totally appalled by the victim blaming that was going on that I just couldn’t take it any longer and had to post about it.  What follows is screen caps of the FB conversation between myself and some random guy I don’t know.   He thinks he can’t get a date because women are all oversensitive and hostile.  No dummy, you can’t get laid because you’re kind of a sexist douche.

So yes.  I totally wasted my day arguing with this silly sexist stranger.     I did think that it raised awareness to what women sometimes have to deal with on a day to day basis.  This dummy has NO CLUE!   He blames the women he asks out for his failure to easily score dates.  Um, no….I’m pretty sure it’s your personality ass hat.

11 thoughts on “The Day FB Blew Up & The Sexist Asshat

    1. Yeah, he’s a douche. There was more that happened after this but I just gave up and pointed and laughed at him instead.

  1. wow what a dousche! If you simply continue tos ay “I’m not interested” that could also lead into other thigns… maybe they weren’t trying to hit on her and just simply wanted conversation, so her simply putting it as “I am trying to read I would like to be left alone” should cover both being hit on as well as not wanting to be bothered in general. I hate that they argued all of those stupid points… wtf does it matter that she “lies” and wears a wedding ring, that is her right, clearly it doesn’t work but she did everything possible to try to relay that she just did not want to be bothered and they still pushed it.. the stupid teens and that crazy man. I feel so bad for her that she went through this. Sexism or not, you would never hear of a woman attempting to “hit on” or talk to a woman and them harrass a man from the front of the train or go psycotic and scream at the man for “rejecting” her. absolutely rediculous and absurd that those men even had the “balls” to say anything in defense of the men and the situation AT ALL! Thank you for sharing, I did not hear about this story or this woman’s blog.

  2. OMFG, so much love and respect and mad grrl-crush for you!!! You are on point! And that douchebag… Of COURSE he’s the problem, and of COURSE he’s going to try to say that wearing a ring is a horrible act. (I’m sorry, but before I was married, I bought rings I liked, and I wore them on whatever finger fit best. If that happened to be my ring finger, so be it. I do not see how it is 1-LYING or 2-ANY OF HIS BUSINESS, if a woman wears a ring on that finger. In some countries, they wear rings on their righthand ring finger. WHAT THEN?!?! UGH.)

    It KILLS me that he cannot see the intrinsic entitlement and objectification issues at play when he “see an attractive woman, and goes over to speak to her.” Dude….no. You’re not entitled to speak to “attractive women,” and you’ve already reduced them to an object rather than a subject, and that’s so gross. And when you try to point that out to him, you’re over-reacting, or being a bitch, etc, etc, fill in your favorite sexist dismission here.

    Mad props to you for trying to get this moron to see reason for so long. I would’ve blown my top after the first exchange.

    1. Bet you dollars to donuts, he also gets really irritated when “ugly chicks” or “fat chicks” talk to him, even if they’re not flirting (which, duh, they must be, because he’s such a catch) – because he’s obviously too good for them, and irritated that they interrupted his personal time to try and start a conversation. Never even occurring to him that that might be part of what’s going on for the “attractive women.” /sad trombone

      And also? The more I think about it, the madder I get: “men have to ask” so they deserve a response? Um, NO, asshat. In this type of non-survival-issue situation (ie, not dealing with access to food, clothing, shelter), you don’t DESERVE anything from another person. You’re simply not entitled. If they deign to give you a response, then that’s their decision – but they don’t OWE you shit.

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